Pathetic, isn't it? Every time one would come up to me and say we really miss you along with a fake smile, I would reply back oh yeah, what do you miss about me? It left them speechless every time.
Through out the years they didn't mind eating our food, using our car for service every single time we were out(as a matter of fact as soon as we were heading out in the parking lot to our cars, we would let the others in our car group take the lead in seeing who would walk to who's car and they always ended up at our vehicle as though it was expected of us to drive them which we did)and not pay for gas, didn't say no to us supplying the congregation with all the meat for their hall reno, or their parties, didn't mind keeping all our shower and wedding gifts even though we were marked apostates, we were still giving gifts after we had stopped going to the meetings. The kicker to all of that was we had only gone to one wedding and one party in the twelve years we were in the cult.
There's more but after all the kindne$$ we gave, not one phonecall to see how we were doing. Not one visit or shepherding call untill they wanted us out on account of what we knew what the elders were covering up. It was two years before anyone came sniffing around stalking us. Sad they didn't miss us unless there were gifts or donations involved. Sad how the elders wanted to make hubby an elder after he had put a fair donation in the contribution box. I don't miss the fake smiles or fake conversations.
Life is what you make it and for us it's so much better with no pressure and no seven goons taking our freewill away from us telling us serving them is how we should live. All of us are survivors of the worse crimes imaginable. Live life to its fullest and never allow anyone to abuse you or take advantage of you ever again.